I decided to sit in meditation a bit afterwards and this question came up again. The answer I received is love. We just want to experience love. And weddings are great reminders of this. There is so much love and joy involved. There is a sense of connectedness.
Are you married? Or have you ever been? Do you remember what it was like on your wedding day? I do. I’ve been married twice. The first to my late hubby Steve. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was soooo nervous! I was young, and if I’m truly honest with myself, questioned whether it would really happen. Up until that point, all of my relationships had failed. Thankfully, Steve walked down the aisle that day.
That loving feeling lasted for a while between Steve and me, but over time, it began to diminish. Everyone told me, “This is normal. It’s just how marriage is.” I believed them, but didn’t like what I was experiencing. Subtle feelings of resentment and anger slowly seeped into our hearts. And the next thing we knew, there was a wall between us.
Our marriage took a turn for the better when I made a decision to heal and walk the path of The Enlightened Mom. I wanted to recapture that loving feeling, but knew I first had to find it within my heart. That meant I had to get real with myself, and with my hubby.
As I began to heal, my marriage healed. All of the sudden the walls came tumbling down. The anger, resentment and blame fell away. We began to recapture the love we had experienced on our wedding day. And then Steve passed away.
My marriage to Charlie is completely different and has been from the beginning. From the moment we walked down that aisle, there was a sense of knowingness that we were right where we were meant to be. That’s because we were both centered in who we are and were connected to love on the inside. There was no worry about whether one or the other might jump ship. From the beginning of our relationship, we had made a commitment to be fully authentic with one another and that we would stand in a space of love. And that’s why our marriage works so well and still holds the energy of passion and romance.
As I listened to the royal wedding commentators today, they implied that Prince Charles and Princess Di’s wedding had been a failure and that this marriage between their son, Will, and his new wife, Kate, was going to be different. So what will make it different? Staying connected to their hearts, being fully authentic with one another.
For so many of us, it seems that once the wedding bells have silenced and daily routines take over, the light of love slowly diminishes, just like my marriage to Steve did in the beginning. But it doesn’t have to be this way. I know this first-hand.
In my marriage with Steve, I let my ideals of what a good wife and mom should be bury me in responsibilities. And I got angry. I thought I was mad at him. But in truth, I was mad at me. I was the one who wasn’t honoring myself. I shut down to love. I am the one who stopped being open. It was only when I made a decision to heal, that I began to experience love again.
What about you? Is your heart open like it was on your wedding day? Or is it shut down? Have you gotten so buried in responsibilities and daily life that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to experience love and connectivity?
I want to hear from you. I want to hear your thoughts on this topic. But most of all, I want you to know that you have the power to change your life right now. You have the ability to open back up to the love that you crave, just like that feeling of love you experienced on your wedding day. And I want to show you how.
As many of you know, my book, The Enlightened Mom, is launching right now to you- friends and members of our Enlightened Mom community. I want to invite you to walk this path with me. I teach in this book how to get back to your heart and open up to love. These are the tools that I used to heal my marriage with Steve. We were that typical couple who lost ourselves in our marriage. But as I made a decision to heal, so did Steve. And the next thing I knew, the walls came down between us, and not only did each of us as individuals heal, but our whole family did as well.
This is what happens when you make a decision to have the courage to look within and connect to love again. You get to experience love and joy every day, just like the royals did today on their very special wedding day.
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