“I am enough.” Can you say those words and really KNOW them at your core? Do you know that you are acceptable and lovable just by being you?
It’s easy to answer this question with a yes. That’s your conscious mind speaking. But your subconscious mind might be telling you something else.
I work with a lot of women and I hear them proclaim that they are enough, that they deserve to be seen, heard and valued, and that they deserve all the Universe has to offer. But when you look at their daily lives, you can tell they don’t truly believe these things at all.
What is your life trying to tell you?
A good way to determine this is by listening to your feelings. How are you reacting to people and situations? Are you feeling heard, loved, nurtured and respected? Do you feel life flows with grace and ease? Do you feel all of your needs are met? Do you feel balance and harmony?
Do you feel you have to race to get ahead? Do you feel you have to take care of everyone else before you can take care of yourself? Do you feel angry, resentful, sad, depressed, jealous, frustrated, resentful, guilty, or any other feeling that is connected to mind chatter that says, “Why can she have it all but I can’t”? Or, “What’s wrong with me”?
I could go on and on with a list of questions. Think about your life for a moment? Is it what you want for yourself? Have you settled because you believe you can’t have what you want?
It’s time to get honest. Take a moment, close your eyes and visualize the little girl inside of you. Now ask her, do you feel enough?
If there is even a little inkling that says “no,” it’s time to make a shift. It’s time to love that little girl within and raise your Worthiness Quotient.
Your WQ is how open you are to receiving love, nurturing and support simply for who you were created to be. It’s based in how much unconditional love you have for yourself. And your outer world is one of the greatest messengers telling you where your Worthiness Quotient sits.
I was hit over the head with this truth some years ago when I was guided to write my book, The Enlightened Mom. It’s a book to help women love and nurture themselves unconditionally so that they set a tone for their family to thrive instead of survive. The book actually won Best Spiritual Book of the Year at both New York and San Francisco Book Festivals. As soon as I brought it out, I had infomercial people talking to me, as well as a consultant from PBS. I actually had a vision a few years prior that I would have a PBS special. I was on fire and felt my life was fantastic when these miracles showed up. And then everything suddenly fell away. Nothing happened.
My mind wanted to make excuses and even blame the other people involved, but thankfully, I knew that my outer world is a reflection to my Worthiness Quotient. So I had to dive deep within to look at what I believed I deserved.
It didn’t take long to understand what the problem was. I realized that I was blocking this amazing abundance because I still had subconscious beliefs that I couldn’t receive love, nurturing and support from the Universe because I am an energetic healer and clairvoyant. I thought I had cleared those beliefs over the years, but when I saw all these amazing opportunities slip away, I knew I had to dive deeper within.
I realized that I was terrified of putting myself out in the world in a big way because I feared being persecuted. There were still some old religious beliefs inside of me that said others would see me as evil. And, in my mind, being evil definitely didn’t deserve love. So I subconsciously shut down all the abundance that was showing up.
I had to do a lot of digging and clearing to love myself unconditionally and raise my Worthiness Quotient so that I could bring my message to the world. I’m so thankful that I had the understanding that my outer world is a reflection to my inner world so I didn’t stay in victim mentality.
When we sit in the lower level emotions of blame, frustration, anger, sadness, guilt, etc., we are playing the victim. It is this victim mentality that makes us feel as if we’re not enough. That’s because we’re not receiving the gift that our outer world is trying to give us.
If you are ready for a shift, here are three simple things you can do right now to raise your Worthiness Quotient:
- Stop playing the victim. Sit in gratitude for all the crap that’s showing up in your life. These things are mirrors to what you subconsciously believe you deserve.
- Allow your feelings to guide you. Your feelings are messengers from your soul. If you’re reacting in any way with negative emotions, that’s your cue showing that you’re living by a belief that says you don’t deserve to be loved. Allow your feelings to guide you as far back as you can go to a similar situation. Ask what the belief was you took on back then and let it go. Remember, if it’s causing you to react negatively, it’s not your truth.
- Love yourself unconditionally. Give yourself permission to be you. As you treat yourself as if you matter, you will begin to feel enough because that is how you’re treating yourself. No one can make you feel enough; you must do it for yourself.
If you want to feel enough, stop playing the victim. Move into empowerment mentality and know that every situation, every person who comes into your life is a gift and a mirror to show you what YOU believe you deserve deep within your subconscious mind. See every situation as an opportunity to go within and love yourself more so you KNOW that you’re enough. As you do, you will raise your Worthiness Quotient and finally open up to receive all the Universe has to offer because you finally know you deserve it.
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