Have you seen the hysterical You Tube video from the Jimmy Kimmel Live Show that went viral this week? It’s called, “I Told My Kids I Ate All Their Halloween Candy”? If you haven’t, I invite you to watch it. You will have a great laugh! I’ll share the link in a moment. But first, I have some insights from it that I’d like to tell you about.
The You Tube video is a compilation of videos submitted by parents at the request of Jimmy Kimmel. He invited parents on his Halloween night show to tell their kids the next day that they had eaten all of the kids’ candy. He asked that they get the reactions on video and then submit them back to the show. Well, you can only imagine the wails and tears that were shed when all of the little ones thought that their candy was gone. It was as if each had lost his or her best friend. Except, for one little boy.
In this particular segment of the video, the mom shares with her son that she is really sorry that she’s eaten all of his Halloween candy. She apologizes and explains that she just couldn’t help it because she is pregnant and gets hungry. At this point of the video, we’ve seen all kinds of hysterics displayed. But not this little boy. At first, he looks a little shocked. Then, all of the sudden, he smiles. That’s when he dives under the pillow and pulls out some Nerds, shaking the small box of candy at his mom. “You didn’t eat ALL the candy!” he exclaims.
This little boy didn’t feel deprived. And he didn’t seem angry. That’s because he had taken care of himself and filled up his cup by keeping that little box of candy. And that’s when it hit me. This is how we parents respond to life. If our cups are full, we don’t get angry. We simply smile and walk with grace through tough situations. On the other hand, if we feel deprived like most of the kids felt in the video, we lash out and throw temper tantrums.
So my question to you this week is, “Are you walking through life with grace and ease with a cup filled with sweetness? Or are you feeling deprived and, as a result, find yourself throwing temper tantrums?”
Now, you may be thinking, “I don’t have temper tantrums! That’s when little kids throw themselves on the ground and scream and yell out. I definitely don’t do that!”
Well, my response to you is that this is just one form of temper tantrum.
I believe temper tantrums manifest in many ways. If you’re screaming at your kids, shutting down your spouse, withholding love in any way, this is a form of lashing out. You do these things because you feel deprived.
I invite you to go into awareness this week and watch yourself. Tap into your feelings. If you find yourself having a little temper tantrum of any kind, ask, “What do I need to do today to make my life sweeter?”
You have to tuck a little candy away to sweeten your life and keep a smile on your face.
Check out the Jimmy Kimmel video here.
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