Are Your Boundaries Buried in Guilt?

Being a Woman Leader of Love means creating strong boundaries in your life. Boundaries are those things that you are not willing to put up with. Think of boundaries as the ultimate act of self-love.

Most of us weren’t raised with parents who had strong boundaries. If your family was like mine, your parents did everything for you at the expense of themselves. They believed that self-denial was love. So, not only did they not create strong boundaries of self-love, but they also set an example for you to watch and learn.

Hopefully, since you’re in this community, you’ve been breaking that generational cycle and have created some boundaries such as speaking up for yourself, giving yourself time to do the things that make you happy, and loving yourself in most every situation. But here’s something to think about…

Are your boundaries buried in guilt?

Because many of us were raised to deny ourselves, when we begin to create boundaries we feel guilty about it. We are so buried in the belief that self-denial is love that we find ourselves in a constant inner battle. And before we know it, we’re taking out our angst on the people around us.

Guilt is debilitating in so many ways. Not only will you take out your pain on others, but you’ll also shut yourself down to receiving the thing you wanted when you created your boundary in the first place. Let me explain.

Imagine that you want to create a more peaceful home. You know that to do so you must take time each day to meditate and journal. You set an intention to do this daily, but before you know it, you feel you must do something for a family member or friend. You are torn, knowing that you absolutely need to love yourself, but are buried in guilt for wanting this.

What do you do?

You suppress your needs out of guilt. You take care of your friend or family member at the expense of yourself. And before you know it, you’re buried in emotional chaos and lashing out at that person or someone else, or stuff your emotions and feel sad and depressed.

Your whole intention was to create peace. But because your guilt took over about setting your boundary to meditate and journal, not only did you not love yourself, but you probably took your pain out on someone else.

This is NOT love.

If your heart is calling you to create a boundary, this is God saying, “Listen. Here’s how to move into alignment with me. Create this boundary so you can lead a life you love.”

It’s our egos that tell us no and bury our boundaries in guilt.

As long as you stay in ego and allow your guilt to guide you,

you’ll never create a life you love.

It’s time to let the guilt go!

To help you, this month’s free Tapping into the Divine meditation guides you to let go of guilt and create boundaries of love.

Click here to listen to Boundaries of Love.

Want to go deeper?

If you’re ready to love yourself more, WITHOUT GUILT, I invite you to check out my new online digital program, “The Worthiness Quotient: Claim Your Crown…Lead a Life You Love.” This course is packed with the wisdom and tools I’ve used to shift my own life and that I’ve been teaching for over two decades. It helps you move into alignment with God and co-create a life you love. Don’t miss it! I have very low Pandemic prices happening now.

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Have a beautiful day!

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